But on the flip side, just as we should never presume incompetence, nor should we over-presume about the competence of children with high functioning autism / Asperger's. Jennifer Cook O'Toole of Asperkids describes kids with Asperger's as "Swiss cheese" - in other words, really strong in some areas, but with gaps in the middle. When a child has a large vocabulary - the "Little Professor" syndrome that is so common in Asperger's - adults tend to expect him to be equally skilled in all areas of life. Which of course he is not, because of those holes in the Swiss cheese.
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Even professionals can fall into this trap with our very bright kids. Here is a perfect example: my son had been struggling to zip his winter coat, even though the school OT had said he that he had mastered the skill. I sent her an email about it, and the therapist guessed that my son was not really having trouble with his zipper, but that he wanted an excuse to work with her again so he could gain access to her iPad. She said that my son is "too smart to have forgotten" how to zip a zipper ("too smart" is a red flag that assumptions are being made, in my book). Now my son is as motivated by the iPad as the next guy (which is to say a lot!), but the whole idea of a preschooler devising such a complicated, manipulative plot seemed a bit far-fetched to me.
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Well, guess what - when the OT watched my son trying to zip his winter coat, it turned out he really couldn't do it. Why? Because he had mastered zipping a therapy vest, not a real coat with a flap over the zipper. The skill learned in therapy did not generalize to real life. That is not manipulation, that is autism!
And that is my point: yes, we should always presume competence, but we should also avoid falling into the trap of assuming equal competence across all domains. That is why we use extensive visual supports for our highly verbal child and at least try (when we remember) to look for the underlying cause when problems arise, using the TEACCH "iceberg model". Children all across the autism spectrum are first and foremost unique individuals, and it does them a disservice to ascribe negative (flawed) motivations to their genuine struggles.